You spend your whole life dreaming about your wedding—from the cake to the dress and even what to include in your bridal suite.
But how much thought have you given to the actual wedding ceremony?
If you’re like most people, you’ve probably spent more time thinking about cake flavors than the person who will make you husband and wife. But your wedding officiant is a huge part of the day that should not be overlooked (or chosen on a whim).
In this article, we’ll go over the basics of how to find a wedding officiant to ensure that your whole day is just as you dreamed.
Simply put, the wedding officiant is the person who performs the marriage ceremony, making you legally married as husband and wife. (You know, the one who says, “You may now kiss the bride” at the end?)
According to Texas law, you can only perform a wedding ceremony if you are a:
Unlike some other states, Texas notaries are not authorized to perform weddings, although some notaries complete online ordination courses to add wedding officiant onto their list of services.
Even if you narrow down your search to just the ordained Christian ministers, you have your work cut out for you. There are more than 25,000 churches in the state of Texas (not even counting the synagogues)! Where do you start?
Here are six things to consider that will make finding a wedding officiant a little easier.
For those who want a marriage built on faith, having your pastor perform your wedding ceremony can be a beautiful way to start your marriage. But what if you come from different religious backgrounds (or none at all)?
More and more couples are choosing to go a more “secular” route for their marriage ceremony. This may also be preferable if you prefer to have a bit more control. (For example, you might not like the idea of vowing to “obey” each other.)
Regardless of which route you go, ask candidates if you can look at the script or template they use to make sure their values align with your vision.
Every couple has a different “vibe” they hope to create at their wedding.
Perhaps yours is a traditional wedding with a unity candle and a reading from 1 Corinthians. Maybe you’re planning something that reflects your cultural background. Then again, you could be planning a Star Wars themed ceremony (complete with lightsaber battle at the altar).
The choice is yours, really.
Making these decisions ahead of time will help you find someone who is on board with whatever you’ve got planned.
If you have friends or family that are qualified to perform your ceremony, this can add a beautifully personal touch to your day. But there’s more to consider than how long you’ve known each other.
A wedding ceremony is a legal proceeding that involves important paperwork (although it’s not exactly “romantic” to think of it like that). You’ll want to make sure your officiant is familiar with the process and will do the necessary steps to make sure your marriage is legit.
Ask for references from other happily married couples to be sure you find someone with the right level of experience.
Unlike other vendors, your wedding officiant may have a set of requirements that you must fulfill before they will agree to the wedding.
In addition to any fees, some officiants require that you attend premarital counseling (either through them or someone else) or other types of training.
This not only helps them get to know you as a couple, it benefits your future marriage as well!
When finding a wedding officiant, you’re not just picking a skillset or certification, you’re choosing a personality as well.
Do plenty of research to make sure you like their style, speaking voice, personality, and approach toward your wedding.
Some may prefer to write the vows themselves. Others may offer to coach you through writing your own. Some may like to crack a few jokes, while others keep it serious.
Above all, the biggest mistake you can make is assuming that all wedding officiants are the same. Research will save you a lot of heartache in the end.
If you’re stumped by the long list of potential wedding officiants in your area, ask your wedding venue (or other trusted vendor) for recommendations.
The team at your venue has seen a ton of weddings. We know which officiants were difficult to work with and which ones made everyone cry happy tears. (We also know which ones are willing to wear a Darth Vader helmet, if that’s what you’re into.)
Because at the end of the day, your wedding venue’s #1 goal is for you to have the day you always dreamed of. You can trust us!
No bride starts out knowing how to find a wedding officiant. But that doesn’t make it an insurmountable task.
At Kendall Point, we host hundreds of weddings every year, so we know all the tips and tricks to help you have the wedding of your dreams.
If you’re planning a San Antonio wedding, we can not only help you find the perfect officiant, we can help you host the perfect wedding.
Schedule a tour today to get a sneak peek at your event.